Introduction
The book “Who Is She”tells the stories of the lives of many young women who are the winners butstill get lost or confused between the world around them and their own world.There are 4 parts which illustrate 40 lessons about 40 unique characters inthis book.
Notably, you will read and learn about the problems and solutionsprovided in each lesson. In addition to the third person pronoun “she” beingused in each lesson, you will get to meet another main character known as theMachine who speaks to inspire you, encourages you to believe in yourself, andgives you some suggestions to deal with your problems.
Part1 will remind you more about the problems that happen to you personally. Youmay be able to find some suggestions too.
Part2 will review the problems that you consider relationship issues, includingfriendship and family. You can find some motivating messages in that parttoo.
Part3 will show you how women handle everything, in good times and bad. Somelessons are remarkably inspiring. You will learn something from that part.
Part4 will give you some ideas about how to define your own life the ways you want.There are ten different ways, to be exact. I hope you like each one of them.
Goodluck, My Reader!
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Contents
LegalNote
Acknowledgements
Dedicatedto DARA LY Books Fans!
Aboutthe Author
Introduction
Part1: Her Personal Issues
Part2: Her Relationship Issues
Part3: Her Personal Rules
Part4: Because She Can
PART1
HERPERSONAL ISSUES
Motivationfrom Machine!
#1Failure
She Failed the Exam
Who is she?
Shethinks she is a loser because she failed the exam. It came as a surprise, andshe was quite shocked to learn that she failed. Tears were rolling down hercheeks. She ran to her mom and hugged her. She needed motivation as she alsofelt ashamed of herself, not knowing what to say. She just kept crying andcrying.
It’sunexpected to fail, but it’s obvious that she has to make a new plan for herfuture. It’s the future that seems pretty lonely. Her friends will go on tostudy at universities, but she will be stuck at the same high school. In otherwords, she has to repeat the 12th grade again, unwillingly andshamefully.
Shehates being compared by others, but sometimes she compares herself with herfriends and classmates. As a result, she gets mad at herself. When she looks inthe mirror, she sees a loser, and she just wants to…
Motivation from Machine
Hello. My name is DaraLy the Machine, but you can call me Cool Mac. My Creator (Dara Lythe Human) has invented me to speak on behalf of him, so my job is to talkwith you. You can talk back if you want.
Youfeel ashamed because you think failing an exam is a bad thing. What do you wantme to say? Do you need an answer or an honest answer?
Agood answer would be: Don’t think too much.
Anhonest answer would be: Think and ask!
Youheard me. Ask people. Think about what they have to say. By the way, make sureyou ask the right things to the right people. However, do not believe them 100%because nobody can have all the answers you need. Failing an exam is only scarybefore you fail. After failing it, you don’t feel scared anymore. Are youwilling to change the way you think about the exam?
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2
Comparison
She Hates It
Who is she?
There are two forms of silence. Thefirst one is the silence with confidence. The second one is the silence withpain. Her silence has sent a clear message about her pain. Sadly, nobody canhear nor see it. Nobody sees her pain, and nobody cares about her feelings.
There are hundreds of stories thatshe wants people to know, yet she can’t speak out. Why? Because she’s busycrying. As a matter of fact, she’s crying right now.
(I hate it when I have to remind herabout those dramatic and sad things that she has to go through, again.)
Sometimes she becomes convinced thatshe is just a loser, and some people just don’t stop comparing. They keepcomparing her with other kids. She is convinced that something is wrong withher, and…
Motivation from Machine
You are upset becausepeople keep comparing you with others. What do you want me to say? What? Do youneed motivation? You want me to say something nice or something brutallyhonest?
Youthink that those kids are better than you, so you must be a loser. If I have tobe honest with you, I would say that it is the most laughable thing I’ve ever heard.Well, let me try to be a little nicer. Okay? I would say that you are unique inyour own way.
Iknow. I know. Some old farts think that you are just as dumb as they believeyou are. The saddest part is that you believe it too. You agree with them,sometimes. And that, in my Machine opinion, is wrong. It is wrong because thosepeople don’t live your life. You do. They don’t know you like you knowyourself. They don’t even care about you, so you shouldn’t care about them.
Mysuggestion: Walk away!
WhenI sense that someone is talking nonsense in front of me, I walk away. Actually,I walk as fast as I run away from fart. They might think that you are arrogantwhen you walk away from them. If you stay and listen to them, they willcompare. Either way, you’re no good, in their eyes.
Idon’t mind when some people think that I’m an arrogant person. They can thinkor say whatever they want because I don’t care what they think. In your heart,you know if you are arrogant or not, right? Self-respect is important. Respectyourself, and respect others, but do not let anyone disrespect you. Show themthat you mean business.
Whenpeople are talking nonsense in front of you, you can make the decision. Ignoretheir words, or let their words ruin your peace of mind!
Youchoose because you’re the boss.
Be a smart boss!
3
NoComparison
The Story
Who is she?
She’sa little girl who is beautiful and purely good. Sadly, that’s not the story shewas told when she was younger. Instead, people kept saying that she’s ugly andunattractive. Even worse, some people said to her that she was not smartenough. That’s a painful experience for a little girl.
Aspainful as it might sound, it actually changed her life, the hard way. Becauseof this pain, she decided to be better. Better looking and better mind! Butmost importantly, she cared more about her study, and she told herself that shewouldn’t let anybody else tell her that she’s dumb. She tried studying everyday. She spent more hours each day doing exercises and reviewing lessons. Her studyperformance was improved. It sounds very simple, but it’s a true story, andit’s been successfully tested. If anybody wants to improve study performance,they just need to spend more hours learning. She’s proof of this method. Shebecame a better student, and nobody dared to bully her anymore.
Nevertheless,her beauty is also a priority, and indeed, it’s an important part of herhappiness too. She believes that she can change her image and become morebeautiful. She started caring more about her body, her skin, and her healthydiet. No fast food! Okay, sometimes still can’t say NO, but she avoids eatingtoo much of it.
Butwho is she?
Sheused to suffer, and she wants to tell other girls to be positive and staystrong. Why? Because, as a kid, she used to be hurt by the words from peoplearound her. She doesn’t blame them now. She doesn’t blame anybody. She believesthat people have different views, and she can have a different idea of how tobe happy. This is why she doesn’t compare herself with anybody. There is oneexception, though. She can compare herself with her old self. She aims at beingbetter than her old version.
Butwho is this girl?
Shehas a few quotes for herself and other women:
•Love yourself before you want others to accept you.
•Believe in yourself and help yourself before expecting others to do so.
•Do not compare yourself with others.
• Do not sleep withyour eyes open. (Okay, she didn’t say that.)
4
HerExperiences
She Also Cares about Her Friends
Who is she?
She'sa nice woman, but she doesn't like a guy who pretends to be nice only to flirtwith her. And her friends also! What she doesn't know is that a guy has adifferent way of thinking.
Everybodyloves an outstanding student, and the outstanding student is good in so manyways, except for one. He likes flirting with so many girls that everyone stopstrusting him. Like most girls, she starts to question his intention every timehe says something nice. That doesn't mean she dislikes the guy. It's just atendency to be cautious.
Butwho is she?
She'sa good student, but she just doesn't feel that way. Sometimes she blamesherself for not trying hard enough. Often, she worries about the future ahead.One year from now, she's going to take the exam that will define her future.It's a pretty scary thing when she thinks about it because people around herplace high expectations on her. That's her life as a grade-12 student!
Expectationmotivates her to try hard, but too much of it can also give her a hard time. Inother words, she needs to try to be better than she could ever be.
Whois she?
Shewants to improve her learning habits. She tries finding something to motivateherself, but she never finds anything good enough to keep her going. As aresult, she just goes with the flow, hoping she could go as fast as otherstudents could. That's how she feels each day about studying.
Meanwhile,she also cares about her friends. She wants them to study more, and pass theexam. However, she believes that it's hard to convince them. They think they'redumb, but she thinks they could improve themselves if they only hang out lessoften and study a little bit more every day.
Whois this grade-12 girl?
5
TheImpact
Getting Lost
Who is she?
Comparisonis what people like to do, and they do it all the time. One problem, though.They do not know the negative impact it could have on the one being compared.It's a sad thing, but it's hard to avoid. As easy as it might sound, peoplecompare others with many things and anything.
Whenyou are in the middle of this situation, it's kind of annoying. Especially,when it is your family and loved ones who actually bring you to this unwantedhappenstance. It's unpleasant, but it’s unavoidable.
Youmight regret the fact that you didn't spend enough time to listen to your heartwhen you should have. You might feel that it's an unlucky part of your lifewhen other people compare you with someone else.
It'seven more upsetting when they keep asking you about the result. Often you getlost, and become stressful with yourself and your life too. That's the sad part,but that's not the whole picture. Believe me, that's only the beginning.
Thesuggestion is: Appreciate what you can do now rather than trying to answer allkinds of questions.
You’vebeen taught to believe in reason and reject something outside of your comfortzone. That’s what limits your mind from greatness. Your creativeness can’tfunction properly if you limit your imagination. I’m not saying that we shouldblock our reasoning.
We should balancebetween reason and faith. We should accept both logic and magic. People comparebecause they’re scared. Their logic makes them scared. You should be worried nomore, for the magic is in your mind. Free your mind from the burden of havingto please everybody. Believe me, not everyone wants to hurt you, but sometimesgood intentions can hurt you, more than they could imagine.
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